Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

In 2015 I wrote a blog about Why Men do Not show emotions ? I re-read my blog today, and here is some of what I wrote: “Whenever a frustrated woman in a therapy session asks me the question, “why doesn’t he talk to me about his emotions” or on the contrary, the frustrated man is trying so hard to…

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New-Year's Resolutions

Is One of Your New-Year’s Resolutions – A Fulfilling Relationship?

Happy New-Year to all of us!  May 2018 bring satisfying and fulfilling Love!! Its the New Year. We hopefully wake up on the morning of January 1, 2018, with feelings that here is a New-Year, and with the desire and belief that maybe, this time, we can somehow ‘turn our life around’… Whether it is a resolution or hope, some…

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Spring and Sex

It is Spring Time… and Sex is in the air

“Come to the orchard in Spring. There is light and wine, and sweethearts in the pomegranate flowers. Rumi If you are like me, as soon as that spring energy starts to buzz in the air.. there is that sense of renewal and aliveness, and with it, renewed energy for intimacy and sexuality. It is like the whole world is awakened…

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Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power…

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Are We Just Roommates?

Finding a way out of the “Roommate Marriage” So many times I hear this sentiment in the therapy office. “We are just roommates,” “we are just co-parenting,” “when the kids leave home there will be nothing left and we will part,” “we are friends at best but more like strangers,” “we are house managers” and the list goes on. Being…

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