Burning Man

How are Burning Man 2019, and Hold Me Tight® related?

What do ‘Burning Man’, ‘Psychs on Bikes’ and ‘Hold Me Tight ®’ share in common?  and how I am compelled by them all… Those of you who know me, are aware that every year, on the week leading up to Labor Day, I make a pilgrimage to the Black Rock Desert in Nevada to partake in the Burning Man festival…

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Do We Need to Avoid Mistakes?

Are mistakes avoidable, inevitable, transformable?  Are mistakes necessary? Mistakes can at times, feel dangerous. Mistakes and failures are thought to us from a young age to be avoided. Whether mistakes are experienced  first hand, or we have watched family or friends suffer the impact, we know they can be painful. We organize our life around trauma. It is part of…

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Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop

Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop

Couples weekend retreat. Nevada City, California How can a private, intensive, relationship enhancement workshop, couples retreat help my relationship? Hold Me Tight® Relationship Workshop ARE you LONGING for CONNECTION, better communication , romance, and  INTIMACY? BUT instead you: • Have recurring fights without resolution.. • Lack affection, intimacy or sex.. • Feel alone, lonely, or betrayed.. Do You want to…

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Can we change our minds

Can We ‘Change Our Minds’?

Changing our minds and life narrative one re-frame at a time It happens in my therapy office every day… When I start to unpack the stories behind what brought someone to therapy, there is a lot of history, a meandering journey of ups and downs. Many times those narratives fold in them a path that we had no way to…

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Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anaïs Nin Nature has no ‘option’, as spring arrives, it burst out in renewing energy through buds, flowers, vines and brunches, birds and bees. It ALL comes alive. It is with amazement that I watch spring…

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How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays

What Not To Do This Holiday

How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays December kind of arrives, and I am never really prepared. With all the stress of a long summer here in the foothills of California,  and the stressful tragic fires we went through, December was suddenly here. Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers are everywhere, Santa’s bells are ringing, anticipation…

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Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

Not All Who Wander Are Lost –  J. R. R. Tolkien I have not always been in relationships. There were years in my life, when I was single.  At times I very much enjoyed it, taking time between relationships, to process, integrate, and get to know myself better, out of relationship.  Other times, I would look at couples with a…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshops

Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop. Nevada City, CA. September 14-15/2019 by Dalia Anderman LMFT A couple of weeks ago, as I was preparing and setting up for our October Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, I looked around the room, and felt immense gratitude for the opportunity to lead this workshop and to help couples reach a new level of intimacy…

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