Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

Not All Who Wander Are Lost –  J. R. R. Tolkien I have not always been in relationships. There were years in my life, when I was single.  At times I very much enjoyed it, taking time between relationships, to process, integrate, and get to know myself better, out of relationship.  Other times, I would look at couples with a…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshops

Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop. Nevada City, CA. January 12-13/2019 by Dalia Anderman LMFT A couple of weeks ago, as I was preparing and setting up for our October Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, I looked around the room, and felt immense gratitude for the opportunity to lead this workshop and to help couples reach a new level of intimacy…

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How to Get it 'Right' on Valentine Day

How to Get it ‘Right’ on Valentine’s Day..

As soon as January rolls in, the shelves in the grocery store fill up with Valentine’s Day ‘goodies’… pink bears, heart shaped chocolate boxes, chocolate roses, flowers, cards… all reminding us NOT to forget our loved ones on Valentine’s Day… Getting it ‘right’ on Valentine’s Day can be tricky.. so ‘How Do I Get it Right’? How do I let…

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New-Year's Resolutions

Is One of Your New-Year’s Resolutions – A Fulfilling Relationship?

Happy New-Year to all of us!  May 2018 bring satisfying and fulfilling Love!! Its the New Year. We hopefully wake up on the morning of January 1, 2018, with feelings that here is a New-Year, and with the desire and belief that maybe, this time, we can somehow ‘turn our life around’… Whether it is a resolution or hope, some…

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Halloween- the beginning of the Holiday Season

I Always Wanted to be a Flight Attendant-and Coping with Holiday Stress

I love Halloween, it is such a beautiful time of the year, as leaves change colors, and the the skies change dramatically with the weather shifts. Here in Nevada City CA, Halloween is celebrated with lots of festivities and lots of grown-ups dress-ups.. I have always said that when the world will be ‘a perfect place’, and my work as…

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What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

S.A.D: Seasonal affective disorder “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” ― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables I love hearing the Sandhill Cranes as they migrate overhead high in the autumn skies. The Sandhill Crane’s call is a loud, rolling, trumpeting sound. For me that is the sound of longing, as those amazing birds…

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Judgement and Criticism - A Strategy of Fear?

Judgement and Criticism – A Strategy of Fear?

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Like many of…

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Writing about shame by Dalia Anderman

How Shame ‘Takes Us Out’

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. ~ Brené Brown Writing about shame, already feels uncomfortable. Almost immediately, I feel a sense of discomfort rising in me, and I have been procrastinating this blog for a while (a whole month to be exact). Memories of shame moments, have been flooding…

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