Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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The darkest day of the yea

Bringing Light to the Darkest Day of the Year

Recently I had my own dark night. Not heeding my own ‘advice’ about coping with holiday stress, I tried to power through all the symptoms of what I thought was a flu, only to find myself diagnosed with pneumonia.. It was scary. I have never been that sick, and felt that darkness of helplessness and needing to rely on others…

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This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One

Give the Gift of Connection

This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One When was the last time you had a deep, intimate, vulnerable, conversation with your partner? Let alone Seven (7) Conversations.. This Holiday, GIVE each other THE GIFT OF LOVE and INTIMACY. At our Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, in a safe, intimate, private setting, we hold space for couples…

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Halloween- the beginning of the Holiday Season

I Always Wanted to be a Flight Attendant-and Coping with Holiday Stress

I love Halloween, it is such a beautiful time of the year, as leaves change colors, and the the skies change dramatically with the weather shifts. Here in Nevada City CA, Halloween is celebrated with lots of festivities and lots of grown-ups dress-ups.. I have always said that when the world will be ‘a perfect place’, and my work as…

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Coping with Anxiety and Panic

Coping with Anxiety and Panic when it is All Around Us

“Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” ~ Charles Spurgeo My first encounter with panic attack and anxiety,  was being rushed to the emergency room during college..I was still very far from being a psychotherapist… My heart was pounding, my chest hurting, my breath short and shallow, my vision tunneled and I…

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When living hurts

When living hurts – you do not need to do it alone

“We’re taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they’re of equal value to happiness, excitement and inspiration.” ~ Alanis Morissette There are times in our lives when ‘Living Just Hurts’… We know those days when it is hard to think of getting out of bed in the morning, getting dressed seems an unreasonable task,…

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Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers everywhere, Santa’s bell are ringing, anticipation is in the air.  But with those excitements of the holidays, comes some ‘un-invited guests, STRESS. We feel that we need to get things done, presents lists checked off, chores completed. We are invited to many Holidays get- together, office parties, family events, friends celebrations,…

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Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” –…

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Dancing through our relationship panic

Dancing through our relationship panic

We are all longing for that ‘safety in connection’, for that sense that we can let go of our anxieties, relax, knowing that we are held and witnessed. We want to know that ‘I am safe with you’, that when I need you, you will be there for me, and you have my back. We all need that. Read more…