Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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Autumnal Equinox, Yom Kippur, and S.A.D, time for Forgiveness and Gratitude

Today is the Jewish Holiday of Yom Kippur An important and sacred day in my tradition. It is the Day of Atonement and forgiveness. “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” – Marianne Williamson In all…

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When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

Not All Who Wander Are Lost –  J. R. R. Tolkien I have not always been in relationships. There were years in my life, when I was single.  At times I very much enjoyed it, taking time between relationships, to process, integrate, and get to know myself better, out of relationship.  Other times, I would look at couples with a…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

I wanted to start this blog with a little apology, and a gratitude, to all of you, for your endurance and support. Those of you who read my blog, or get my newsletter, may at times, need to endure my mass marketing and promotions, of my Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, and I bet it could be a bit of…

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I Don’t Want To Talk About It…

I Don’t Want To Talk About It…

Recently in a therapy session, I started talking to a client about some depression and anxiety he or she was experiencing. When I started asking about some of his/her background, history, parents, childhood, the push-back I got was ‘I don’t want to talk about it’, ‘it all happened so long ago’, ‘I don’t know what the point is, I’m a…

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This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One

Give the Gift of Connection

This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One When was the last time you had a deep, intimate, vulnerable, conversation with your partner? Let alone Seven (7) Conversations.. This Holiday, GIVE each other THE GIFT OF LOVE and INTIMACY. At our Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, in a safe, intimate, private setting, we hold space for couples…

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Halloween- the beginning of the Holiday Season

I Always Wanted to be a Flight Attendant-and Coping with Holiday Stress

I love Halloween, it is such a beautiful time of the year, as leaves change colors, and the the skies change dramatically with the weather shifts. Here in Nevada City CA, Halloween is celebrated with lots of festivities and lots of grown-ups dress-ups.. I have always said that when the world will be ‘a perfect place’, and my work as…

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Judgement and Criticism - A Strategy of Fear?

Judgement and Criticism – A Strategy of Fear?

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Like many of…

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Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

“Our silence about our grief serves no one. We can’t heal if we can’t grieve; we can’t forgive if we can’t grieve. We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend. We can’t rise strong when we’re on the run.” Brené Brown . We all know grief, we…

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