Can we change our minds

Can We ‘Change Our Minds’?

Changing our minds and life narrative one re-frame at a time It happens in my therapy office every day… When I start to unpack the stories behind what brought someone to therapy, there is a lot of history, a meandering journey of ups and downs. Many times those narratives fold in them a path that we had no way to…

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Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anaïs Nin Nature has no ‘option’, as spring arrives, it burst out in renewing energy through buds, flowers, vines and brunches, birds and bees. It ALL comes alive. It is with amazement that I watch spring…

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Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Almost a month ago, we all wished each other a Happy New Year!! Raising our glasses and making wishes for a joyful, inspiring, healthy, happy year. From The Week of January 11, 2019, ‘Making 2019 Happier, What science has discovered about lifting mood and creating a positive outlook on life’. In the article, looking at How do we make 2019…

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How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

I wanted to start this blog with a little apology, and a gratitude, to all of you, for your endurance and support. Those of you who read my blog, or get my newsletter, may at times, need to endure my mass marketing and promotions, of my Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, and I bet it could be a bit of…

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Halloween- the beginning of the Holiday Season

I Always Wanted to be a Flight Attendant-and Coping with Holiday Stress

I love Halloween, it is such a beautiful time of the year, as leaves change colors, and the the skies change dramatically with the weather shifts. Here in Nevada City CA, Halloween is celebrated with lots of festivities and lots of grown-ups dress-ups.. I have always said that when the world will be ‘a perfect place’, and my work as…

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A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly. – Richard Bach At our (Sold Out!) Hold Me Tight Couple Workshop last weekend, I was so deeply moved, when I witnessed couples going from a state of fear, panic, anger, resentment, and disconnection, to trust, connection, safe communication and intimacy. At our closing “forgiveness-commitment-appreciation” ceremony…

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Why do we get ANGRY so quickly?

Why Men Do Not Show Emotions? – or Do They?

In my Twenty+ years of marriage, I used to have endless conflicts with my then-husband about him not talking, not sharing emotions, not being as verbal as I wanted him to be. A caring, compassionate, soft-spoken quiet man, I would take his quietness personally, and would protest it endlessly. It was years later after our divorce, after becoming a competent…

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When Living Hurts – Signs you’re battling with depression

… and when do we need to seek help? As a child of a parent that suffered from depression, I know what it is like ‘when living hurts’, and also how devastating it can be for the close and loved ones of the depressed person. It is an experience full of sadness, chaos, fear, loneliness and despair. Almost everyone has had some…

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Touched or Devastated by Infidelity?

Can We Be Monogamous? The most common trouble that couples bring into therapy is the issue of infidelity. Sexual affair, emotional affairs, betrayals, long-time or one night stands, it is all about the bond of trust being broken. And it is always painful. Many have been touched by affairs of parents, friends or other family members. We frequently see it in the movies and…

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Fifty Shades of Vulnerability and How I Finally Joined the 21st Century

Last night I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey with my women circle book club. Even-though the reviews of the movie have been kind of ‘shady’, I was curious to see it and judge for myself, and as both the movie and the book were so highly successful (more copies sold then Harry Potter!), it was a sign of…

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