Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anaïs Nin Nature has no ‘option’, as spring arrives, it burst out in renewing energy through buds, flowers, vines and brunches, birds and bees. It ALL comes alive. It is with amazement that I watch spring…

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Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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Autumnal Equinox, Yom Kippur, and S.A.D, time for Forgiveness and Gratitude

Today is the Jewish Holiday of Yom Kippur An important and sacred day in my tradition. It is the Day of Atonement and forgiveness. “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” – Marianne Williamson In all…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

In 2015 I wrote a blog about Why Men do Not show emotions ? I re-read my blog today, and here is some of what I wrote: “Whenever a frustrated woman in a therapy session asks me the question, “why doesn’t he talk to me about his emotions” or on the contrary, the frustrated man is trying so hard to…

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How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

I wanted to start this blog with a little apology, and a gratitude, to all of you, for your endurance and support. Those of you who read my blog, or get my newsletter, may at times, need to endure my mass marketing and promotions, of my Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, and I bet it could be a bit of…

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I Don’t Want To Talk About It…

I Don’t Want To Talk About It…

Recently in a therapy session, I started talking to a client about some depression and anxiety he or she was experiencing. When I started asking about some of his/her background, history, parents, childhood, the push-back I got was ‘I don’t want to talk about it’, ‘it all happened so long ago’, ‘I don’t know what the point is, I’m a…

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How to Get it 'Right' on Valentine Day

How to Get it ‘Right’ on Valentine’s Day..

As soon as January rolls in, the shelves in the grocery store fill up with Valentine’s Day ‘goodies’… pink bears, heart shaped chocolate boxes, chocolate roses, flowers, cards… all reminding us NOT to forget our loved ones on Valentine’s Day… Getting it ‘right’ on Valentine’s Day can be tricky.. so ‘How Do I Get it Right’? How do I let…

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What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

S.A.D: Seasonal affective disorder “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” ― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables I love hearing the Sandhill Cranes as they migrate overhead high in the autumn skies. The Sandhill Crane’s call is a loud, rolling, trumpeting sound. For me that is the sound of longing, as those amazing birds…

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Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

“Our silence about our grief serves no one. We can’t heal if we can’t grieve; we can’t forgive if we can’t grieve. We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend. We can’t rise strong when we’re on the run.” Brené Brown . We all know grief, we…

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