Can we change our minds

Can We ‘Change Our Minds’?

Changing our minds and life narrative one re-frame at a time It happens in my therapy office every day… When I start to unpack the stories behind what brought someone to therapy, there is a lot of history, a meandering journey of ups and downs. Many times those narratives fold in them a path that we had no way to…

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Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Almost a month ago, we all wished each other a Happy New Year!! Raising our glasses and making wishes for a joyful, inspiring, healthy, happy year. From The Week of January 11, 2019, ‘Making 2019 Happier, What science has discovered about lifting mood and creating a positive outlook on life’. In the article, looking at How do we make 2019…

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How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays

What Not To Do This Holiday

How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays December kind of arrives, and I am never really prepared. With all the stress of a long summer here in the foothills of California,  and the stressful tragic fires we went through, December was suddenly here. Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers are everywhere, Santa’s bells are ringing, anticipation…

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Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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Autumnal Equinox, Yom Kippur, and S.A.D, time for Forgiveness and Gratitude

Today is the Jewish Holiday of Yom Kippur An important and sacred day in my tradition. It is the Day of Atonement and forgiveness. “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” – Marianne Williamson In all…

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When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

When it comes to Couple-hood, Are we all the same?

Not All Who Wander Are Lost –  J. R. R. Tolkien I have not always been in relationships. There were years in my life, when I was single.  At times I very much enjoyed it, taking time between relationships, to process, integrate, and get to know myself better, out of relationship.  Other times, I would look at couples with a…

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Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Epidemic of Loneliness, Depression and Suicide

Are we Facing an epidemic of Loneliness, Depression, and Suicide? Even though our awareness to the loneliness and suicide epidemic becomes more acute when celebrities like Kate Spade, and Anthony Bourdain, take their own lives, it has become an epidemic, that has inflicted our culture in such proportions, that some experts are calling it a health epidemic and crisis. From…

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Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

Attention Men – Vulnerability Is An Aphrodisiac..

In 2015 I wrote a blog about Why Men do Not show emotions ? I re-read my blog today, and here is some of what I wrote: “Whenever a frustrated woman in a therapy session asks me the question, “why doesn’t he talk to me about his emotions” or on the contrary, the frustrated man is trying so hard to…

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How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

How Do We Know If We Found The ‘One’..

I wanted to start this blog with a little apology, and a gratitude, to all of you, for your endurance and support. Those of you who read my blog, or get my newsletter, may at times, need to endure my mass marketing and promotions, of my Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, and I bet it could be a bit of…

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Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshops

Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop. Nevada City, CA. June 8-9/2019 by Dalia Anderman LMFT A couple of weeks ago, as I was preparing and setting up for our October Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, I looked around the room, and felt immense gratitude for the opportunity to lead this workshop and to help couples reach a new level of intimacy…

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