Surviving Holiday Stress

Surviving Holiday Stress

How to make the most of your holidays by avoiding the stress. I’m not sure how it is for you, but for me, when it turns autumn, as the leaves start to change colors, and the days start to get short, I start worrying about the holidays. I didn’t grew up in this country, and so the winter holidays were…

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Suffering from – S.A.D?

Suffering from – S.A.D?

Are you or a loved one suffering from – S.A.D? Today is Rosh Ha’shanna – the Jewish New Year. What an appropriate date to post my fall (autumn) blog. As most of the Jewish holidays relate to the lunar calendar, and the agriculture seasons, so does Rosh Ha’shanna, which is the new moon after the equinox. In the Jewish traditions, fall…

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How are Hold Me Tight® and Burning Man – related

What do ‘Burning Man’, ‘Psychs on Bikes’ and ‘Hold Me Tight ®’ share in common?  and how I am compelled by them all… Those of you who know me, are aware that every year, on the week leading up to Labor Day, I make a pilgrimage to the Black Rock Desert in Nevada to partake in the Burning Man festival…

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Do We Need to Avoid Mistakes?

Are mistakes avoidable, inevitable, transformable?  Are mistakes necessary? Mistakes can at times, feel dangerous. Mistakes and failures are thought to us from a young age to be avoided. Whether mistakes are experienced  first hand, or we have watched family or friends suffer the impact, we know they can be painful. We organize our life around trauma. It is part of…

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Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop

Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop

Hold Me Tight® Couples weekend retreat, Nevada City, California, January 11-12, 2020 As we are getting to the shortest day and longest night of the year, as 2019 is coming to a quick close, and another decade is ending, (how did that happen SO fast?). Like many of us at this time of year, I find myself having thoughts, inquiries,…

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Can we change our minds

Can We ‘Change Our Minds’?

Changing our minds and life narrative one re-frame at a time It happens in my therapy office every day… When I start to unpack the stories behind what brought someone to therapy, there is a lot of history, a meandering journey of ups and downs. Many times those narratives fold in them a path that we had no way to…

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Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

Sex, Spring, and Taking the Risk to Open..

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anaïs Nin Nature has no ‘option’, as spring arrives, it burst out in renewing energy through buds, flowers, vines and brunches, birds and bees. It ALL comes alive. It is with amazement that I watch spring…

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Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Getting the New Year to An Inspiring Start

Almost a month ago, we all wished each other a Happy New Year!! Raising our glasses and making wishes for a joyful, inspiring, healthy, happy year. From The Week of January 11, 2019, ‘Making 2019 Happier, What science has discovered about lifting mood and creating a positive outlook on life’. In the article, looking at How do we make 2019…

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How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays

What Not To Do This Holiday

How to avoid unnecessary stress in the holidays December kind of arrives, and I am never really prepared. With all the stress of a long summer here in the foothills of California,  and the stressful tragic fires we went through, December was suddenly here. Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers are everywhere, Santa’s bells are ringing, anticipation…

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Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Secure Attachments Help with Stress in Times of Adversity

Every time I sat down this last month to write my monthly blog, another, tragic, stressful, event occurred and threw me off.  From the shooting in Thousand Oak, to the fires that are raging only an hour from where I live, and have destroyed the town of Paradise and some neighboring towns. Here in Northern California, we have been struggling…

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