How to Get it 'Right' on Valentine Day

How to Get it ‘Right’ on Valentine’s Day..

As soon as January rolls in, the shelves in the grocery store fill up with Valentine’s Day ‘goodies’… pink bears, heart shaped chocolate boxes, chocolate roses, flowers, cards… all reminding us NOT to forget our loved ones on Valentine’s Day… Getting it ‘right’ on Valentine’s Day can be tricky.. so ‘How Do I Get it Right’? How do I let…

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The darkest day of the yea

Bringing Light to the Darkest Day of the Year

Recently I had my own dark night. Not heeding my own ‘advice’ about coping with holiday stress, I tried to power through all the symptoms of what I thought was a flu, only to find myself diagnosed with pneumonia.. It was scary. I have never been that sick, and felt that darkness of helplessness and needing to rely on others…

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This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One

Give the Gift of Connection

This Holiday Give the Gift of Connection to Your Loved One When was the last time you had a deep, intimate, vulnerable, conversation with your partner? Let alone Seven (7) Conversations.. This Holiday, GIVE each other THE GIFT OF LOVE and INTIMACY. At our Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, in a safe, intimate, private setting, we hold space for couples…

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Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power…

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Infidelity

Infidelity – a Deal Breaker – or – a Game Changer ?

Out Beyond Ideas of Right Doing.. and Wrong Doing.. There Is A Field.. I’ll Meet You There..   ~ Rumi. Why Infidelity? I know it is almost Valentine’s Day and I should be writing my blog about hearts and flowers and chocolates, but I am a couples therapist… and I lead couples workshops… and many times I hold space for…

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Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” –…

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A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly. – Richard Bach At our (Sold Out!) Hold Me Tight Couple Workshop last weekend, I was so deeply moved, when I witnessed couples going from a state of fear, panic, anger, resentment, and disconnection, to trust, connection, safe communication and intimacy. At our closing “forgiveness-commitment-appreciation” ceremony…

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Dancing through our relationship panic

Dancing through our relationship panic

We are all longing for that ‘safety in connection’, for that sense that we can let go of our anxieties, relax, knowing that we are held and witnessed. We want to know that ‘I am safe with you’, that when I need you, you will be there for me, and you have my back. We all need that. Read more…

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic by Dalia Anderman, MFT.

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic

In an era where so much connection is possible and the world is at our fingertips, where we have virtual reality connections via Skype or face-time or emails or tweets or texts, where all day long we hear pings and notifications and alerts that someone is ‘connecting with us’, research says that we are more lonely than ever. Read more…

Forgiveness – Is It Even Possible?

The Freedom in Forgiveness and the Power of Apology “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” – Marianne Williamson We will hurt the ones we love. Our loved ones will hurt us. It is how to…

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