Why do we get ANGRY so quickly?

Why do we get ANGRY so quickly?

And… what can we do about it? Does Anger get the best of you? Understanding the emotions of anger. I grew up with a father that had rage and anger. I have memories of his anger, and how scary it was for me as a little girl. Anger is scary. Most of us who were affected and touched by anger…

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Coping with Anxiety and Panic

Coping with Anxiety and Panic when it is All Around Us

“Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” ~ Charles Spurgeo My first encounter with panic attack and anxiety,  was being rushed to the emergency room during college..I was still very far from being a psychotherapist… My heart was pounding, my chest hurting, my breath short and shallow, my vision tunneled and I…

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When living hurts

When living hurts – you do not need to do it alone

“We’re taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they’re of equal value to happiness, excitement and inspiration.” ~ Alanis Morissette There are times in our lives when ‘Living Just Hurts’… We know those days when it is hard to think of getting out of bed in the morning, getting dressed seems an unreasonable task,…

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My new year's resolutions.

How to Make New Year Resolutions That Last

Happy New Year to us all! A new year … a fresh, clean start! It’s like having a big white sheet of paper to draw on! A day full of possibilities! “It’s a magical world, Hobbes, ol’ buddy … let’s go exploring!” — Bill Watterson, It’s a Magical World: A Calvin and Hobbes Collection   As I watch the final…

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Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers everywhere, Santa’s bell are ringing, anticipation is in the air.  But with those excitements of the holidays, comes some ‘un-invited guests, STRESS. We feel that we need to get things done, presents lists checked off, chores completed. We are invited to many Holidays get- together, office parties, family events, friends celebrations,…

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Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” –…

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Dancing through our relationship panic

Dancing through our relationship panic

We are all longing for that ‘safety in connection’, for that sense that we can let go of our anxieties, relax, knowing that we are held and witnessed. We want to know that ‘I am safe with you’, that when I need you, you will be there for me, and you have my back. We all need that. Read more…

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic by Dalia Anderman, MFT.

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic

In an era where so much connection is possible and the world is at our fingertips, where we have virtual reality connections via Skype or face-time or emails or tweets or texts, where all day long we hear pings and notifications and alerts that someone is ‘connecting with us’, research says that we are more lonely than ever. Read more…

Forgiveness – Is It Even Possible?

The Freedom in Forgiveness and the Power of Apology “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” – Marianne Williamson We will hurt the ones we love. Our loved ones will hurt us. It is how to…

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Setting intentions and the fear of commitment

At the end our last (sold out!) Hold Me Tight couples workshop in Nevada City, we created a ritual where each one of the couples gave an appreciation and expressed gratitude to their partners, made a commitment and set an intention, for and about their relationship. It was a touching moment, many eyes got tearful. It struck a cord with many of the couples. Dreams were remembered, hopes were rekindled.