Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power…

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When living hurts

When living hurts – you do not need to do it alone

“We’re taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they’re of equal value to happiness, excitement and inspiration.” ~ Alanis Morissette There are times in our lives when ‘Living Just Hurts’… We know those days when it is hard to think of getting out of bed in the morning, getting dressed seems an unreasonable task,…

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Hold Me Tight Workshop

Workshop for Couples – North California

Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop. March 25-26, 2017. Nevada City. California. “Dance me through the panic ’til I’m gathered safely in… Dance me to the end of love.”  ~ Leonard Cohen Do you want to: feel more closeness, connection, and engagement with your partner? have good fulfilling communication? learn how to reach for your partner at times of need? renew…

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Infidelity

Infidelity – a Deal Breaker – or – a Game Changer ?

Out Beyond Ideas of Right Doing.. and Wrong Doing.. There Is A Field.. I’ll Meet You There..   ~ Rumi. Why Infidelity? I know it is almost Valentine’s Day and I should be writing my blog about hearts and flowers and chocolates, but I am a couples therapist… and I lead couples workshops… and many times I hold space for…

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My new year's resolutions.

How to Make New Year Resolutions That Last

Happy New Year to us all! A new year … a fresh, clean start! It’s like having a big white sheet of paper to draw on! A day full of possibilities! “It’s a magical world, Hobbes, ol’ buddy … let’s go exploring!” — Bill Watterson, It’s a Magical World: A Calvin and Hobbes Collection   As I watch the final…

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Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Claim Your JOY this Holiday Season

Yes, it is this time of year. Holidays cheers everywhere, Santa’s bell are ringing, anticipation is in the air.  But with those excitements of the holidays, comes some ‘un-invited guests, STRESS. We feel that we need to get things done, presents lists checked off, chores completed. We are invited to many Holidays get- together, office parties, family events, friends celebrations,…

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Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

Longing to Belong: How do I know I belong?

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” –…

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A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

A.R.E. you there for me? (Accessible Responsive Engaged)

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly. – Richard Bach At our (Sold Out!) Hold Me Tight Couple Workshop last weekend, I was so deeply moved, when I witnessed couples going from a state of fear, panic, anger, resentment, and disconnection, to trust, connection, safe communication and intimacy. At our closing “forgiveness-commitment-appreciation” ceremony…

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Dancing through our relationship panic

Dancing through our relationship panic

We are all longing for that ‘safety in connection’, for that sense that we can let go of our anxieties, relax, knowing that we are held and witnessed. We want to know that ‘I am safe with you’, that when I need you, you will be there for me, and you have my back. We all need that. Read more…

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic by Dalia Anderman, MFT.

Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic

In an era where so much connection is possible and the world is at our fingertips, where we have virtual reality connections via Skype or face-time or emails or tweets or texts, where all day long we hear pings and notifications and alerts that someone is ‘connecting with us’, research says that we are more lonely than ever. Read more…