What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

What is SAD, and Why is it Important to Not Ignore it!

S.A.D: Seasonal affective disorder “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” ― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables I love hearing the Sandhill Cranes as they migrate overhead high in the autumn skies. The Sandhill Crane’s call is a loud, rolling, trumpeting sound. For me that is the sound of longing, as those amazing birds…

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Judgement and Criticism - A Strategy of Fear?

Judgement and Criticism – A Strategy of Fear?

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Like many of…

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Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

Will I ever feel whole again? Coping with grief

“Our silence about our grief serves no one. We can’t heal if we can’t grieve; we can’t forgive if we can’t grieve. We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend. We can’t rise strong when we’re on the run.” Brené Brown . We all know grief, we…

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Writing about shame by Dalia Anderman

How Shame ‘Takes Us Out’

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. ~ Brené Brown Writing about shame, already feels uncomfortable. Almost immediately, I feel a sense of discomfort rising in me, and I have been procrastinating this blog for a while (a whole month to be exact). Memories of shame moments, have been flooding…

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Why do we get ANGRY so quickly?

Why do we get ANGRY so quickly?

And… what can we do about it? Does Anger get the best of you? Understanding the emotions of anger. I grew up with a father that had rage and anger. I have memories of his anger, and how scary it was for me as a little girl. Anger is scary. Most of us who were affected and touched by anger…

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Dalia Anderman, MFT. Reviews and Testimonials

Reviews and Testimonials

Dalia Anderman, MFT. Licensed Marriage Family Therapist Couples, Individuals and Family Counseling/Psychotherapy Reviews and Testimonials from my practice during the past years Here are some of the testimonials, evaluations, and reviews about my practice in Sacramento and Nevada City as well as from the Hold Me Tight® Workshops. I love reviews and testimonials so feel free to add your personal one…

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Coping with Anxiety and Panic

Coping with Anxiety and Panic when it is All Around Us

“Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” ~ Charles Spurgeo My first encounter with panic attack and anxiety,  was being rushed to the emergency room during college..I was still very far from being a psychotherapist… My heart was pounding, my chest hurting, my breath short and shallow, my vision tunneled and I…

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Spring and Sex

It is Spring Time… and Sex is in the air

“Come to the orchard in Spring. There is light and wine, and sweethearts in the pomegranate flowers. Rumi If you are like me, as soon as that spring energy starts to buzz in the air.. there is that sense of renewal and aliveness, and with it, renewed energy for intimacy and sexuality. It is like the whole world is awakened…

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Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

Daring to Own Our Story – Being Vulnerable – Loving

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power…

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When living hurts

When living hurts – you do not need to do it alone

“We’re taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they’re of equal value to happiness, excitement and inspiration.” ~ Alanis Morissette There are times in our lives when ‘Living Just Hurts’… We know those days when it is hard to think of getting out of bed in the morning, getting dressed seems an unreasonable task,…

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